WHY DO I KEEP DOING THIS

So many of us were raised to basically suppress every emotion possible. We were told to keep our reactions completely on lock so we wouldn't embarrass our parents or make anyone else uncomfortable. But then we grow up, and suddenly using that same control in our adult relationships is labeled toxic, controlling, and a total red flag. It’s a massive double standard. Control is super tricky—sometimes it’s a coping mechanism to keep us feeling safe, but other times it completely wrecks our connections. So, how are we supposed to navigate that?

In Why Do I Keep Doing This?, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton breaks down this exact internal crisis. She dives into how our childhood conditioning and low-key anxiety make us feel like we’re taking up "too much space" just by existing, or like we’re somehow less worthy of love and effort. When we struggle to set boundaries or ask for what we actually need, it messes with our personal growth—leading us straight into people-pleasing mode just to keep the peace.

Kati unpacks why control feels so comforting in the moment, but how letting it run the show secretly sabotages our lives. We all use different survival tactics to get through stressful times, but as we grow up, we have to recognize the toxic patterns holding us back and actually do the inner work to unlearn them.

Blending her own personal growth story with her background as a therapist and content creator, Kati gives you the ultimate self-awareness playbook. Why Do I Keep Doing This? doesn’t just help you ask the hard questions about your behavior—it actually gives you the tools to break the cycle and build healthy, lasting change.